May 29, 2018
How much attention does your
child need?
Have you ever heard the phrase "You can't pour from an empty
cup?" When we spend time with our children, do Special Time, listen
and care for them, we naturally fill their cups with warmth and
love. When a child has a full cup of your warmth and attention,
they are less clingy. They are connected and confident.
Attention-seeking kids have "Leaky Cups"
Except for a child with a "leaky cup". These are the children
that, no matter how much time, how much love and how much attention
you seem to pour in STILL NEED MORE. Their cups are always
leaky!
They want more of your love. More of your attention. Or else
you'll know about it!
They need everything to go their way. They become rigid and
controlling when it doesn't. They will whine, they will cry,
they will throw themselves down on the floor in tears. They may
become aggressive.
Pretty soon, life can become a riddle of trying to divide time
between all you need to do, and all they need to feel good.
Exhausting? Yes.
Everlasting? No!
Tools for a Child Who Needs Lots of Attention
There are things you can do to love these kids just the way they
need it, to teach them how to fill their own cups, and for you to
have enough energy for your other kids, family members, and even,
yourself.
If you have ever wondered:
- How much attention is too much attention?
- How to help my child become more confident and resilient
- How to balance out my time and emotions in parenting
- or just screamed (silently or otherwise) "I can't give
anymore!"
Join Abigail and Elle this week for some lively banter and good
solutions for attention-seeking, leaky cup kids and their
families.
More Tools for Attention-Needing Children (and stressed-out
parents!)
Read more about kids and attention-seeking behaviors
in When Your Kids Will Do Anything to
Get Attention
You can find out more about the Listening Partnerships that Elle
and Abigail mention here Building a Listening Partnership:
Easing the Stress of Parenting
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